Throw It Out the Window

For those of you who remember the “Throw it Out the Window” kid’s song, it turns out it’s a fabulous mantra! The message is that no matter what the situation, identify what you can’t control, what’s bothering you (maybe your own expectations and perfectionism?), and what it’s time to let go of…and throw it out the window (the second story window). Visualize those unhelpful thoughts flowing right into the breeze.

Especially during the upcoming holidays, freak outs, perfectionism, unrealistically high expectations, and social anxiety are rampant! Yes, holidays can bring both joy and stress! So, let’s check out some tips to help you intentionally open the window for stress to make an exit and encourage balance this season:

1. Set Realistic Expectations

• Avoid perfectionism: The pressure to have a “perfect” holiday can be overwhelming. Focus on enjoying the moments rather than trying to meet every ideal.
• Be realistic about your time and energy: It’s okay to say no to events or commitments if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Set boundaries and prioritize what truly matters.

2. Practice Self-Compassion

• Be kind to yourself if things don’t go as planned. The holidays can be unpredictable, and it’s okay to feel a range of emotions.
• Remind yourself that it’s okay not to feel festive all the time! If you’re grieving, stressed, or anxious, it’s normal to have mixed feelings during the season.

3. Maintain Healthy Routines

• Stay active: Physical activity can reduce stress and improve mood. Whether it’s a walk, yoga, or a more intense workout, try to fit in some exercise.
• Prioritize sleep: With all the extra activities, it’s easy to sacrifice sleep. But getting enough rest is essential for emotional balance.
• Eat mindfully: The holiday season often brings a lot of indulgent food, but try to balance treats with nutritious meals to keep your energy levels steady.

4. Manage Expectations for Socializing

• Limit social media: Social media can create unrealistic expectations and feelings of comparison. Take breaks and focus on real-world connections.
• Set boundaries with family and friends: It’s okay to limit time with family members if relationships are strained. Set clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being.
• Communicate your needs: If you’re feeling overwhelmed by social gatherings, let people know that you need to take breaks or leave early.